If you think getting involved in all this RAOK “randome acts of kindness” stuff is going to instantly bring you endless joy – think again.
I know that statement probably shocks you, owing to the fact that our global Facebook community works hard to promote RAOK and all its goodness, but I have to share with you a truth before you get involved!
Sometimes, acts of kindness – random or planned – do not always go as anticipated. Or rather, they are not always as well received as you may have first planned.
I’ve talked in my blogs before about how lovely it feels to be on the receiving end of a RAOK – how it cheers you, refocuses you, and stays with you. I would have thought then that everybody else would feel the same way upon receipt of a RAOK. I would be wrong.
Let me tell you about some scenarios – all within the last month – where my RAOKs have been well and truly rejected.
RAOK 1: Giving one of the two cakes I had bought to the man busking outside of the bakery.
RESULT: He told me he was gluten free and that I should really look into cutting out cakes or I’d get fat.
RAOK 2: Handing a hot chocolate to a lady who looked fed up in McDonald’s because her kids were running wild around the restaurant.
RESULT: She absolutely glared at me, and offered no physical response whatsoever to suggest she was either going to take the drink or politely refuse it.
RAOK 3: Offering to help an elderly lady who was really physically struggling to get out of her car in a town centre car park.
RESULT: The lady in question shouted at me, telling me it was “incredibly arrogant” of me to assume that just because she was old she was struggling.
My point with this blog is not to put you off RAOK, but to help strengthen your resolve to commit to this movement. Not everyone out there is kind, and, in addition, not everyone out there is open to receiving kindness, either.
Take note of my examples, as I fell flat on my altruistic arse. But, see the funny side, and realise that in the world we live in, the need for kindness is more important than ever.